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    Default NA Meetings in my area?

    I have searched and looked and called people about n/a meetings in my area. I looked on the n/a web site, and there are no meetings that are in my immediate area. The closest one is in a town called Bowling Green, Kentucky, and that is like, 35 minutes away.

    So, my question is this:

    How do I find one? who else should I call? what do you guys do that can't find one? I really need, and want to go. I thought about just calling local churches and see what they have to offer.

    I don't know why theres not one in my town that i live in. Lord knows there's enough drugs here. I'm sure there are addicts here also. I just wonder where they go. OR if they go. Or what they do for support?

    I hope all is okay...
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    Tracy,

    Congratulations on your decision to try out some meetings..thats great!

    I found that there were more AA meetings available in the area that I live in. I enjoyed them...and I also found some AA Women's Groups. If youre amenable to going to AA, you may want to start there and ask around as you meet people in recovery.

    Youll get lots of advice here about how to be an addict attending AA.

    Im not an alcholic but found that I liked AA better. I guess its a personal decision.

    Take care.

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    Hi Tracy ~

    Great decision!

    Just click on these links. They'll ask for State/zip code. You'll be able to find meetings...either AA or NA.

    In any event, each area for both AA and NA have something called Central Office.

    http://members.aol.com/sobertransitions/meetings.html
    http://www.alcoholics-anonymous.org/en_find_meeting.cfm


    http://portaltools.na.org/portaltools/MeetingLoc/

    Grab a chair up front at the meeting and sit with the winners. Raise your hand as a newcomer...you'll get to meet people and they you as well.

    Let us hear how you make out. Warmly, Arlene

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    Thanks, yall!

    I will definitely try to find me one of those meetings, for sure. I do know there are several AA meetings here.

    Can you go to an AA meeting if you aren't really an alcoholic? Is it the same type of meetings that NA meetings are?


    Lisa, do you go to Aa meetings regularly? Did you tell them you were an addict instead of an alcoholic? Were you scared?

    I'm nervous about going, but I feel the need to share my story and help others, as well.

    I thought about going to couseling, there is an amazing drug prevention counseling center here, with a few good therepists. I just thought maybe I should try meetings, I think I wou ld benefit from those.

    Thank you so much for your replies!

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    Hi Tracy,

    It was really hard at first. Both of my parents are/were alcoholics. For me to utter those words was unreal lol. But... I had to make a choice.. surrender to the program or have a beer every few months and not get any help. Does that make sense?

    Im not currently going but I plan to resume soon. It can be a little touchy in closed meetings if you identifiy only as an addict and/or go on about drug issues only.

    Talk to Arlene...shes been down this road..she knows the deal pretty well.

    One very positive note... those womens meetings are very relaxing, safe and almost spiritual..Id really recommend it.

    Take care.. and email me anytime.

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    Also Tracy,

    Just go to an AA meeting and when the time comes to say your name, just say "my name is Tracy and I have a desire to stop drinking". At that point theyll know youre new and trust me, youll be more than welcomed to attend.

    Arlene started out in NA for methadone addiction and now attends AA. Shes posted about it but I dont know where... lets see if she shows up :)

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    Thanks Lisa...

    I'll do a search for her posts..Maybe I can find it that way. I'm anxious to read about it.

    I never drank too much. My stepfather drank and drank. He's definitley an alcoholic. He goes to AA meetings, and he has been in and out of rehab I ca't begin to count the times. After my mom died, I had to send him back once, and when he got out, he started dating a younger woman, like, my age, and got engaged. He started drinking again, and I took off, never have talked to him again. I took care of him, moved in with him, sacrificed my own family to care for him after Mom died. I'm not even going to get into it, but it was a mess growing up in it..for sure. I guess that's why I never drank. I saw what it was doing to him.

    But I sure took those pills...alot of pills....

    I looked on that web site that Arlene posted to find a na meeting, and there is one at a church here. I wonder why I couldn't find it? What if someone new moved here and was an addict? How would you go about finding meetings??

    It is Tuesday night at 7:00, and I'm just going to go.

    What can I expect from the first meeting? do i say anything? Introduce myself? Tell my story? Or just listen? What did you do? Was it a good experience? Did it make you want to go back?

    Lisa, thank you so much for all of your help about it....Really..

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    Here I am. Lisa gave me a shout (thanks, babe)

    Hi again Tracey ~


    And yes, Tracey, Lisa is correct. You can go to EITHER fellowship. The "only requirement for membership is the desire to stop drinking/using."

    I DID begin in NA. I am now a sober member of Alcoholics Anonymous. When I identify at a meeting of Alcoholics Anonymous, I state, "Hi, my name is Arlene and I'm a grateful recovering alcoholic and addict."

    When I identify at a meeting at NA (which I sometimes still attend), I will state only, "I'm Arlene, a grateful, recovering addict."

    And while I was never a drinker...actual hate alcohol, I do believe that I have the disease of alcoholism in that I have all the "ism's" so it's not a stretch for me to identify in this manner. I also believe in working a rigorously honest program, so I will always proclaim my addiction as well. I tend to be respectful of the fellowship I am at.

    When at AA, terms like [u]sober</u> are more likely to be used. When at NA, the term used is [u]clean</u>. Both fellowships can sometimes be highly sensitive to the interchange of these words...dependent upon the groups you attend. Other groups have no problem. I just state that I'm CLEAN & SOBER...covers all bases for me. If anyone has a problem with that...it's on them.

    And I would also second Lisa's recommendation. Women's stag meetings are a GREAT place for you start. They're safe...you can put your issues out quickly and listen to women who have walked through where you are now. The quality of the share level, as opposed to mixed meetings, tends to be very honest...no holds barred.

    Tracey, IMHO you've made a great decision to attend 12 Step meetings. For me, they have been life-changing. I attend 5 meetings a week at this point in my sobriety. I wouldn't chance giving it up. It's worked for me...one day at a time...for 40 months.

    If we can help with any other questions, please don't hesitate to ask. You can also email me. Warmly, Arlene


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    Hey tracy,

    Im sorry about your step dad. I too have a step dad. He moved in with my mother and me when I was around 9. I could not accept him. He never worked, was a pothead, we just didnt get along. Then in adulthood I realized that he was really a decent guy and that he was family to me. We have a good relationship now, however, he and my mother have since split and he has a new girlfriend. After my father passed away, there was talk about me handling arrangements for him someday. Then low and behold, the new g.f. ran interference, wouldnt let me have a joint bank account with him, and took over.

    It took a lot of soul searching to come to terms with his choices. I guess im telling you this because I can relate to the step parent situation.

    I know of a wonderful writing which outlines, in detail, ones first AA or NA meeting/experience. Its going to take me a bit to get it, but i promise i'll try really hard to get it before your Tuesday meeting.

    Take care.

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    Just saw your added post.

    Here of a couple of suggestions for the beginning:

    Identify as a newcomer when they ask.
    Just [u]listen</u>
    Look for the similarities ...not differences. [u]Identify</u> with the stories and experiences of others.
    Should you go to a mixed meeting in lieu of a women's stag, try sitting next to another woman
    Sit up front

    There are three components that are suggested for a chance at a successful recovery: HONESTY, OPENNESS & WILLINGNESS.

    And yes...even if you're frightened, don't understand WHAT the heck they're talking about, don't understand HOW this is going to help you...KEEP COMING BACK.

    And most importantly, remember that THE NEWCOMER IS THE MOST IMPORTANT PERSON IN THE ROOM. That's YOU, Tracey. You're infinitely important to any meeting you go to. Warmly, Arlene


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    quote:Originally posted by Lisa_o1
    I know of a wonderful writing which outlines, in detail, ones first AA or NA meeting/experience. Its going to take me a bit to get it, but i promise i'll try really hard to get it before your Tuesday meeting.
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    I was very nerveous the first time I attended a NA meeting...I had no idea what to expect or what kind of people where going to be there...I wanted to give you a brief idea about what the fellowship is like and what to expect...

    Most NA meeting are held in churches or clean clubs....The people there are very much like you and me....Look for the similiarities not the differences...

    When you walk in you will usually be greeted by a few members of the group who will welcome you and most likely give you a hug....

    The hugging thing freaked me outy the first time I went...but I got used to it...It is actually very comforting...

    There is always coffee and literature avaliable at the meetings...

    So grab a cup of Joe and find a place to sit.....About 5 minutes before the meeting starts the chair person of the meeting will give a call saying "5 minutes till start time...so its a good time to get settled, and if you are holding drugs to take them outside"

    When the meeting starts there will be several readings from various meeting members.....

    Then there will be a secretaries report followed by a general service report....This is just to let everyone know what happening in the NA community and let everyone know where the bathrooms are...basic stuff...

    At some point someone will ask if there are any new member or out of town guests that would like to introduce themselves....Not to embarrass you but to get to know you....(This is a great time to introduce yourself to everyone,if you feel comfortable, and meet new people)

    Then the meeting proceeds to clean time....Clean time is a way that NA measures increments of clean time with keytags, hugs and lots and lots of applause....

    Usually the order will go 24 hours, 30 days, 60 days, 90 days, 6 months, 9 months, 1 year, 18 months and then multiple yeears of being clean....There is usually a line of people waiting to congradulate you on you accomplishment....Remember even 1 day clean is something most people have trouble getting...So be proud and get up and get a key tag....This is another opportunity to connect with the group and you will notice more poeple will talk to you and connect with you...

    A collection basket will be passed...this is keeping with the fact that NA is fully self supporting...It helps pay for rent, coffee, and NA literature...You dont have to give anything if you dont have it...I usually give a buck!

    Then the meeting usually has a format...For example 1 night it might be a speaker meeting...A speaker is someone whos shares there story with everyone and offers their experience, strength, and hope.....Other meeting are discussion meetings...where topics are brought up and the group talks about them...If if comes to you to share and you dont feel like it just simply say" Im just goning to listen tonight, or I pass"

    Bigger meeting will break up sometime into discussion and a speaker meeting...So you have a choice....If they offer a beginners discussion...Go to it...they are very helpful and you will be able to relate!

    Then there are basic text studies...where a chapter of the NA book is read and then shared about....Just For Today meetings....again a reading from the just for today book followed by discussion.....

    At the end of the meeting people will huddle around in a circle and look arms and say the serenity prayer.....

    You will hear words like "homegroup", and "sponser" and "service committee"

    A homegroup is nothing more tha

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    Thanks yall. I emailed you both.

    I appreciate it so much...your support means so much.

    Tracy

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