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    Default two recovering addicts in a relationship together?

    for 5 years ive been with a herion addict thats been in and out of prison the hole time we've been together..... while he was in prison i got on herion and been battling with it since..... my boyfriend got out of prison 5 month ago and relapsed however he is sober now for 3 weeks and i sober now for 6 days my question is should we just cut our ties and move on or is it possible for two addicts to live sober together and forget the bad past?????? anyone i really needadvice on this one.

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    If you guys work a rigorous program of recovery, then perhaps it can work?
    I replied to a lady with a similar sitch, on another thread.
    I think that you guys being clean is the ONLY way your relationship will succeed. As you know, we put getting and using drugs ahead of everything else in the world, including our partners.

    Another thought, would be to not try to solve the relationship issue right now, just work on your recovery. I'm not saying to not see the guy, I'm just saying don't "solve" it right now.
    In recovery, you guys could grow closer, you could drift apart.
    But, if you make getting and staying clean NUMBER ONE, your life will change beyond your wildest dreams.....

    Oh, btw, "forgetting the bad past" is something you'll work on in your recovery program. What is the expression: "We will not regret the past, nor wish to shut the door on it".
    Mic

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    sounds like we might have a chance! put recovery frist no problem, im great full i have found this site, its almost like NA with out leaving your house.. mic thank you for all your help on this situation i needed it!

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    You do have a chance but a very small one, the facts speak for themselves. If you both work a solid like of soberity, that means no booze or drugs of any kids, no weed or nothing sure you have a great chance but you need to ask yourself why would you even ask the question?
    If you have doubts i would work on getting your life back on track first.

    If you love someone set them free, if they come back, sober, it was ment to be...:)

    Tim

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    ilike that last saying If you love someone set them free, if they come back, sober, it was ment to be... i just happen to be the one commimg back to him sober because he got sober before i did... i guess i just doubts because of our past history we've been along this ride for some time now but iam going to focus on my self because i do have a way to go.... freefly thank you!

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    nothing is impossible when love is involved, however, you both have to be headed in the same direction. If he does not want to get or stay clean he will only drag you there with him. So if that happens you will have to choose between him and a clean life. Hopefully he wants the same things you do and you can work a program together. The main focus has to be on getting clean and your recovery not on each other. Good luck and I hope things work out for you. Blessings.


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