Fletcher this is just an idea, but while both of you heal, perhaps you could look into sober living facilities, where she would be on her own, with strict rules of sobriety and among more peers than family. It worked for my son. They have all kinds of them. Cost my son 250. to get in and from there he got a job, had to pay me back, and stayed there for 7 months, then moved to a less strict sober living facility, where the only rule was sobriety. I never could have taken Mike back here after rehab, never. It would not have worked, I was not and am not the person to help him, or the person to lay down the laws. It helps if it is someone who knows or is an addict, it helps them to bond, to listen cause that person has already been there.
This is an idea, that I give to you, cause in my heart of hearts as much as I loved my son, I could not in any way help him at all.
A consideration?
Love annie

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Anne