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quote:Originally posted by guinevere64
The canyon I'm in is, I don't know what's "reasonable" anymore. I told him so. I told him one pear that was over the hill and one uneaten stuffed pepper were really low on my list these days. He told me he's lost all faith in any of the intentions I express--that I have "no credibility" with him when it comes to intentions. I told him it was fair enough: that I've lost all faith that he's "sorry" when he gets angry.
I am face to face with this fear of not being enough, every day.
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why do you have this fear? what is the
underlying fear?
Fear is not real. Fear is a thought...nothing more. thoughts feed emotions and emotions feed thought and they both turn in on the body....for you, sick and tired.
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I told him this morning that my problem is, I can make amends, I can acknowledge something is wrong and try to change my behavior, but that's not enough: I have to MAKE IT OK FOR HIM, TOO. I have to take away his feelings about it all.
--G
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no, no you don't....and realistically, you can't. You G, don't have that much power. none of us do. how he feels, what he does, how he reacts...that's on him. How you react to him....well, that's on you.
live NOW. right now, you're doing the best that you can. that's really all any of us can do. I fall short daily....it is what it is.
peace
j
